Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Vaccination

I firmly believe in vaccination.  My kids are vaccinated.  I am vaccinated.  My husband is vaccinated.  (Even our cats are vaccinated!)  I actually think everyone who isn’t immune-compromised (or otherwise medically unable to be vaccinated) should be vaccinated.  (Yes, everyone.)

I think vaccines are fantastic.  We modern parents can revel in the sniffles and coughs and colds our children bring home.  Our kids have the luxury of passing such minor nastiness around to each other over and over and over because, unlike millions of children in past generations, they will likely survive through childhood and adolescence to adulthood and have plenty of time to suffer the coughs and colds along the way.  We have the benefit of being able to focus on other things – like understanding, treating, and maybe even eradicating diseases and disorders that cannot be vaccinated for, like childhood leukemia, autism, genetic disorders, and birth defects – because we don’t have to worry about our children being maimed by or dying of completely preventable diseases like polio, chicken pox, mumps, measles, rubella, and diphtheria.  This is an amazing thing.

The other day, I saw a vague Facebook post about vaccines.  I clicked the link.  I read the article.  It turned out to be another “what if vaccines really do cause autism?” piece that left me scratching my head.  It seems that this furor dies down only to rear its head again when I least expect it.   I don’t understand it.

All the research indicates that vaccines don’t cause autism.  I trust the research.  I know, some people are frustrated because we can’t PROVE that vaccines don’t cause autism.  But, we can’t prove that vaccines don’t cause autism because the scientific method isn’t intended to prove such things; it’s intended to suss out causal connections.  A scientist may posit that “vaccines cause autism” and then set out to do original research or compile and analyze completed research results to see if the evidence supports the proposition.  In this case, the evidence doesn’t support the proposition.  The first line of this paragraph is a firm statement even if it doesn’t sound like it in our day-to-day speech.  This is how scientists talk. 

I understand the urge to demand PROOF that vaccines don’t cause autism rather than a statement that there’s no evidence that vaccines do cause autism.  I’m a parent.  I get it.  When our children are suffering, what we parents do is worry and fret and demand answers about why.  I truly, truly understand that inclination to blame vaccines because kids manifest many of the most diagnosable autistic symptoms around the same time they get a number of key vaccinations.  But that inclination is not productive, and correlation is not causation.

This constant focus on the correlation of the timing of autism’s onset and vaccinations tires me.  It tires me and frustrates me.  It actually makes me want to shake people sometimes.  Here’s why I think the constant tilting at the windmill of “vaccines MAY cause autism because you can’t PROVE it doesn’t,” is truly, truly harmful:

1.  It diverts attention, resources, and research from true vaccine injuries.  Like chemotherapy, radiation treatment, surgery, and a host of other medical interventions, vaccination is not without risk.  That’s why my pediatrician provides information on all vaccines and requires me to sign an acknowledgment that I’ve read them EVERY TIME my child gets a vaccination.  The attention, resources, and research should focus on reducing these risks and identifying children at risk.  Parents should be able to make informed decisions on proven risks to specific children.  To do otherwise discounts and denigrates the needs of the small group of children who are actually harmed by vaccines and jeopardizes the prevention of such harm.

2.  It diverts attention, resources, and research from understanding the true causes of and the best treatments for autism.  The anti-vaccine movement is so LOUD that it’s hard to pay attention to anything else going on in the community of autism.  The desire to blame something/anything cannot be allowed to drown out the call to find the real cause (or, more likely causes) or to divert needed funding and time from research into the best prevention and treatment measures.  To do otherwise is a travesty for the children and families dealing with autism each day.

3.  It leaves our most vulnerable children, well, more vulnerable.  Healthy children should be immunized.  Why?  To protect the unhealthy and most vulnerable.  Most vaccinations require that more than 85% of a population be vaccinated in order to provide “herd immunity” to those who are not vaccinated.  Some require vaccination levels over 95%.  Ever person who chooses not to vaccinate their non-immune-compromised child places an immune-compromised child (or adult) at greater risk of preventable illness and death.  In my view, that’s morally unsupportable.   The only people who should be “hiding in the herd”  of the immunized are those who NEED to hide in the herd because they cannot receive vaccinations .  We must insulate our most vulnerable members of society from sickness via inoculation of those who are not vulnerable.  Ask a parent who has a child with leukemia or HIV/AIDS how important it is that all the children around their immune-compromised child be vaccinated against preventable (and deadly) childhood diseases.  Hell, ask the parent of a six-month-old who isn’t old enough for vaccination whether they want their six-month-old to hang around with an infected child after a “chicken pox party.”  (For that matter, with regard to chicken pox, talk to someone who’s had shingles.  My sisters and I all three had chicken pox as a child.  One of us developed shingles.  It was the most horrible, excruciating, and pathetic thing I have ever witnessed.  I can’t think back on seeing my baby sister like that without my eyes welling up.  Sure, lots of kids survive chicken pox (though some don’t) but if a kid (or adult) develops shingles down the road because their parents thought vaccination was risky in spite of all the evidence, I’m just saying those parents shouldn’t expect a big thank you note for the chicken pox party.  Why would you subject someone you love to the risk of something as horrible as shingles??)

So, I stand firm in my support of vaccination.  It’s the right decision medically and morally.

Saturday, September 3, 2011

Missing Toy Parts? No Problem!

Usually, toys come and toys go, but sometimes, as all parents know, your children become attached to a particular toy (often inexplicably!). And then, one day, that toy goes missing or loses a key part. What’s a parent to do?


Over the past five years, I have trolled eBay and Craigslist for replacement parts (and toys), contacted several toy companies, and, in some cases, repurchased a toy. It occurred to me the other day when contacting a company about a missing part that I have some helpful tips to share with other parents.

Tip #1: If a toy comes with a manual or other information, keep it.

I have a binder for all of our warranty information, instruction manuals, or other important documentation for household items. In that binder, I have a pocket for toy info. Since I never know which toy will be a hit with my kids and which a bust, I now err on the side of keeping any toy info, at least until it becomes clear that a toy is not a favorite or my kids outgrow it and I give it (and the info) away. Believe me, I kicked myself a couple of times for not keeping information for a toy and finally just started keeping it all. This practice has been especially helpful for toys that do not have identifying information for the manufacturer printed anywhere on the toy itself.


Tip #2: If a toy doesn’t come with a manual and either you or your child really like the toy, keep the receipt or make a note of where it came from.

My daughter once lost her favorite stuffed animal, a small sock monkey named Alice. I had no idea of the manufacturer, and, with Alice missing, I had no way to find out the information. I did remember that my in-laws purchased Alice at the Biltmore Estate. A brief search of the internet and a call to the appropriate Biltmore gift shop allowed me to replace Alice with Alice v.2.0.

Tip #3: Never hesitate to contact a manufacturer.

If you have followed tip #1, it will hopefully be easy to find contact information for the manufacturer in the documents. If the documents you kept don’t have any contact information for the toy manufacturer or distributor, you can usually find a website or at least contact information online if you know the company’s name. If you don’t have the documents and there’s no identifying information on the toy itself, it can be a challenge to identify a manufacturer for some toys, but it is usually worth a Google visit to see if you can track down the information with a description of the toy in the search box. I have also had some luck by searching eBay or Craigslist for the toy and finding the manufacturer information that way. Just because you don’t know or have the information doesn’t mean that some other person hasn’t figured it out and posted it online.

When I contact a manufacturer, I asked about their replacement policy. Some will replace parts (or whole toys) without any proof of your ownership. Others require information from the box or toy itself.  Many companies provide replacement parts or toys for free while others may charge for shipping or for the replacement itself.

Tip #4: Buy from companies that back up their product by providing replacements easily.
When I contact a manufacturer for a part, I also make clear that I am a loyalist. When a company provides good service, including the replacement of missing parts for a beloved toy, I remember that. And I buy from them again, even if it’s just to get a gift for my children to give a friend. To that end, here are the companies I highly recommend:

1. Pockets of Learning
http://www.pocketsoflearning.com/
This company makes lovely soft toys, many of which can be embroidered with your child’s name. They replace missing parts for free. We have a tea set and a Noah’s ark and needed a new cow for our ark. Customer service was very friendly – they were out of the type of cow we had and sent us a new set of two – and the shipping was fast.
(800) 635-2994, or (401) 247-1991
fax: (401) 247-7860
missingpieces@pocketsoflearning.com

2. Phidal Publishing
http://www.phidal.com/
This company makes the popular My Busy Books, which incorporate a large board book, a play mat, and 10-12 toy figures. We have two Thomas the Train sets. Our son lost the Gordon out of each set (because he carried them EVERYWHERE). Customer service responded very quickly by email and even sent us three replacement Gordons instead of two. This is a Canadian company, so you may want to email instead of call.
customer@phidal.com
1 (514) 738-0202
fax: 1 (514) 738-5102

3. Parents by Battat
http://www.battatco.com/
Many toys have the Parents label. Among others, we have the magnetic sketch board with a beanbag lap desk bottom, four animal magnets at the top, and a magnetic pencil for drawing. The bunny magnet didn’t make it back from a trip to Dayton. A call to Battat got the piece replaced at no charge and quickly.
(800) 247-6144

4. Melissa & Doug
http://www.melissaanddoug.com/
Another maker of many, many popular toys, Melissa & Doug does not always have replacement parts in stock, but they were very responsive when I contacted them through the website about a missing part.

5. Alex toys
http://www.alextoys.com/
Alex makes mostly arts and crafts toys and games. While I’ve never tried to get missing pieces from Alex, we got a great Games to Go set at a consignment sale that lacked instructions for all the included games. You can find instructions for many Alex products at www.alextoys.com/instructions. Very helpful!

If you have other suggestions, feel free to list them!

Saturday, January 1, 2011

What I Read - 2010 Edition

Here they are, ladies & gents -- the books I read in 2010, in the order read:


1. We All Fall Down by Robert Cormier

2. Good Natured: The Origins of Right and Wrong in Humans and Other Animals by Frans de Waal

3-12. The Great Book of Amber by Roger Zelazny (all 10 books of the Amber Chronicles)

13. Friends for Life: Enriching the Bond between Mothers and Their Adult Daughters by Susan Jonas and Marilyn Nissensen

14. The Graveyard Book by Neil Gaiman

15. Princes of Ireland by Edward Rutherfurd

16. Rebels of Ireland by Edward Rutherfurd

17. The Secret by Eva Hoffman

18. Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage by Elizabeth Gilbert

19. The Flaw in the Blood by Stephanie Barron

20. The Forever War by Joe Haldeman

21. Forever Peace by Joe Haldeman

22. Darwin’s Radio by Greg Bear

23. The Family Trade by Charles Strosser

24. The Hidden Family by Charles Strosser

25. The Clan Corporate by Charles Strosser

26. The Merchants’ War by Charles Strosser

27. The Revolution Business by Charles Strosser

28. The Trade of Queens by Charles Strosser

29. Theodore Boone: Kid Lawyer by John Grisham

30. Surely You’re Joking Mr. Feynman by Richard Feynman

31. Starvation Lake by Bryan Gruley

32. The Hanging Tree by Bryan Gruley

33. The Books of Magic by Neil Gaiman

34. The Invention of Hugo Cabret by Brian Selznick

35. The Grizzly Maze: Timothy Treadwell’s Fatal Obsession with Alaskan Bears by Nick Jans

36. Packaging Boyhood – Saving Our Sons from Superheroes, Slackers, and Other Media Stereotypes by Lyn Mikel Brown, Sharon Lamb, and Mark Tappan

37. Let Me In by John Ajvide Lindqvist

38. Perfection by Julie Metz

39. Frankenstein by Mary Shelley

40. Jane and the Madness of Lord Byron by Stephanie Barron

41. Angel, Vol. 6: Last Angel in Hell by Bryan Lynch, et al.


Favorite?  Probably Committed.
Least favorite?  Definitely Frankenstein
Most surprisingly good read?  The Grizzly Maze

As with 2010, I have no special goal for 2011, but I'm currently reading The Adventures of Sherlock Holmes by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle on my Kindle and Tales of the Alhambra by Washington Irving in paperback.  Expect lots of classics in 2011 because I'm all about the free ebooks!

Saturday, December 4, 2010

Christmas Soliloquy

To tree, or not to tree--that is the question:
Whether 'tis timely in the month to bedeck
the tree with baubles of Christmas celebration
or ‘tis better to wait ‘til Christmas tidings
are more closely upon us. To hang, the lights—
twinkling—and by their light to stand and sing
our carols, and place the lovely presents
that we each share, too. ‘Tis a celebration
delightedly to be wished. To tree, to rearrange –
to rearrange – perhaps to clean: ay, there’s the rub,
for in that decorating, what furniture must move
when we have carried in that fragrant fir,
must give us pause. There’s the reason
that makes procrastination of such draw.

Saturday, July 24, 2010

Mommy Time

Since becoming a mother of two, I’ve found myself increasingly living on what I call “mommy time.” Before having any children, I was generally an on-time person (though I admit I’ve never been a fan of early arrivals). Back when it was just three of us – my husband, DD, and me – I managed to live my life about as punctually as I did before having a child, late here and there, but generally on time.

But for some reason, adding DS into the mix has forced me into the “ish” realm of mommy time. No longer can I meet a friend for coffee at 10:00. It has become much safer, and far more accurate, to arrange to meet at 10:00-ish. Because let’s say I found myself leaving the house in time to arrive perfectly on time at my destination. Inevitably as soon as both kids are loaded up and ready to go, DS will have a major diaper blow-out, or DD will announce, as I strap her in to her seat, that she really, really, REALLY does actually need to use the toilet before we leave after all. So long timely departure and punctual arrival!

But, let’s be real. Sometimes even a set-time-“ish” isn’t enough. Many days I find myself feeling that I actually need to arrange meetings for “morning-ish” or “afternoon-ish.” You’ve had those days, right?

A few months ago, I was running behind for a playdate at the Atlanta Botanical Garden. When I arrived, I looked at my friend and apologized for running behind. I was just about to add, “It’s been one of those days,” when I realized that nowadays EVERY day is one of THOSE days.

Welcome to mommy time.

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

Vindication

Ah, the sweet, sweet feeling of vindication.

Remember my comments about dealing with a doctor (and nurse practitioner) aghast that I was feeding my four-month-old daughter solids?

Well, I took my son to the doctor yesterday for his four-month appointment. We haven’t started giving him solids yet, because, well, unlike his sister, he’s a HOSS. (And I mean that in the nicest, most Southern way possible.) He’s not showing any particular interest in the food we eat, and, unlike his sister, he’s not hurting in the weight department.

At the visit, our pediatrician informed me that I could go ahead and give BB – for purposes of the blog, let’s call him BB for (ahem) Big Boy – some nice rice cereal followed by veggies and fruit. Apparently since DD was BB’s age (a whole whopping three-and-a-half years), not only have the powers that be in the world of pediatrics learned that giving children food before six months does NOT increase the risk of food allergies but they have also learned that waiting until six months to introduce solids actually INCREASES the likelihood of food allergies.

So, all that stuff they told me when DD was little? All that hell they gave me for feeding her solids at four months? THEY WERE WRONG!

Shocker.

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!

Sorry, I just had to have a moment of gleeful vindictive laughter.

Yes, my parent friends, I will reiterate: TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS. Yes, yes, yes, when it comes to the big medical decisions, listen to your doctor (and get a second opinion). But when it comes to the day-to-day care, read the books, listen to your friends, listen to your doctor, listen to your mother, but above all listen to your kids and to yourself.

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Check out my political commentary

at http://approximatingpoliticaltruth.blogspot.com/2010/02/sticks-and-stones-can-break-my-bones.html.